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By Audia Fraley
For those that have suffered from suicide loss, the experience of grief may feel like a block of heavy and unforgiving concrete. After some time, it may even become difficult to envision a life without grief. The grief process is often tremendously difficult and unique to each individual. While, at times, the sadness may seem inescapable, healing is possible. Imagine a flower growing out of concrete in an environment that was not meant for it. But in order to get there, it is important that each person takes the time to properly care for themselves. In allowing the grief process to take shape, each person has the ability to create an environment that allows them to heal and thrive – just like the flower that grows out of concrete.
As the process for healing begins, try to be receptive to the following transitions that you may notice in your life:
- Development of a sense that new opportunities may begin to develop from this struggle and then an exploration of those possibilities that were not present before. This may lead to a change in relationships with others.
- Experience an increased sense of connection to others who suffer.
- Increased sense of one’s own strength – “if I lived through that, I can face anything”.
- Amplified appreciation for life in general.
- Deepening of your spiritual life. This deepening can also involve a significant change in your belief system.
“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom” -Rumi
Let the healing begin. SOS Advocacy at HelpLine provides help and support to those grieving a suicide with their loss, pain, questions and journey to healing. Survivors can receive one on one guidance to help find local SOS groups, counseling, reading materials and other resources to cope with their loss.
To participate in a community gathering near you, visit the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention website.